Then, 9 months ago, he told me he had a smoking fetish. My husband and I got into a habit in the evening of sitting out in the garden in the lovely cool summers and talking. I would think they are ways you could indulge him in this fantasy without endangering your health. In addition, second hand smoke, inhaled by those around the individual who is smoking is equally dangerous to health. As you must know cigarette smoking is known to cause cancer and is considered dangerous to ones health. 1 Ask your husband to stop smoking for the sake of those around him, chiefly you and your son. If I don't like them then, I can quit. After we got married, I thought it would be nice if he could share smokes with me, so I started coaxing him to try it. I have been with my husband for seven years and he has been a non smoker the entire time, or at least what I thought to be the entire time. I quit smoking right before we met. My extended family smoked and is I had not ever smoked weed in my life. Sep 10, 2018 at 9:57 PM. I'm a smoker and i absolutely hate it. I have impressionable teens in my house. We both smoked for 1-2 months and finally I told her I wanted her to stop smoking and go to therapy before we moved in together. I began when I was 13 and smoke a pack and a half a day of Benson and Hedges. I always thought he was a big anti-smoker. Hi everyone. You can ask every smoker what would be the one wish they could have granted and 95% of them would respond "I wish I never started smoking". I quit 15 years ago for 4 years. His parents smoked, and he hated it. My story is more about how I succumbed to temptation and how I started smoking again. When i met him he said he'd quit but then it started again and i realised it was an every day thing. Started smoking again!! I'm really excited by this. About a year after that I would notice different porn on his computer. and co worker/smoker. coworker,if she remember where she 'hid her cigarettes and lighter on. He asked one evening for me to smoke during sex, I did he absolutely loved it. I had one last night and it felt so good, i've had 3 today. I was kind of freaked at first. When he got back from deployment, he confessed he did smoke and had started when he deployed. That is the critical phase, and around 95% fail at that point. My wife has started smoking, and the image of her doing that eats me up. In one of the posts from this Reddit user, not only does he hate seeing his spouse smoke, but its actually making him think about separation.For something thats supposed to relieve stress, smoking can eventually destroy a relationship. Answer (1 of 4): Why does everyone assume its her and their relationship? Unfortunately, I think we have to eliminate this option straight away. 1. In the past seven years, Ive watched as signs of his habit slowly creep across his boyish face, his working mans hands, his gentle smile. My husband and I are in our fifties and have been very happily married for 32 years. I was kind of freaked at first. So my resolution is to start smoking some full-flavor cigarette and continue until I'm smoking at least 5 a day. After months of no success, he finally relented. My husband recently revealed his smoking fetish fantasy. Friday.co worker stated no try looking in top desk drawer, wife wrote. I started because of my boyfriend, hed always smoked and, though i wasnt anti smoking, i wasnt a particular fan either but i tolerated my boyfriend smoking. Then, 9 months ago, he told me he had a smoking fetish. Anyway I started smoking socially again as that was the only way I could handle him smoking, I know that many people on here will think I am off my rocker and maybe I am a bit weird but for some reason while I was with him and I was smoking too I could tolerate the disgusting habit. It could be your husband is going through something hes internalized and smoking gives him some stress relief. OT: Husband started smoking. I would think they are ways you could indulge him in this fantasy without endangering your health. She was 17, I was 19, and it was hopelessly romantic to smoke cigarettes and talk all night. Scene 2: Skyping With Her Boyfriend. One day, my very healthy athletic We both smoked for 1-2 months and finally I told her I wanted her to stop smoking and go to therapy before we moved in together. So I did because I loved him so much that I would do anything for him. I will rise above the smoke. Or so he thought. Regina-Phalange. He has been working out of state for the last six months and during date night Saturday night he casually disclosed to me that he's been smoking one cigarette a day for the last five Kicking snow over my ashes, I head inside, washing my hands at the kitchen sink. That was years ago now. Dear Harriette: I am at my wits end. Then they had a delay. You can put the effects of your partners smoking into perspective by doing the following:Provide a cost analysis. Discuss how this habit isolates them and even you from social situations that dont allow smoking.Express that you want to live a long life with them in it, and youre concerned that their smoking wont make that possible. break,co worker said OK.a few minutes later my wife wrote asking. He was a smoker and it always made me want to smoke with him. I have been with my husband for seven years and he has been a non smoker the entire time, or at least what I thought to be the entire time. It's rotten that he started smoking again after so long but it's actually really, really good that he's switched to vaping. I recently married the most amazing man in the whole world, 'Jeremy.'. Anyway I started smoking socially again as that was the only way I could handle him smoking, I know that many people on here will think I am off my rocker and maybe I am a bit weird but for some reason while I was with him and I was smoking too I could tolerate the disgusting habit. On week days when he gets home from work and on weekends usually after lunch. We are both non-smokers and she is very anti-smoking and has nagged her father to quit for years. After wed been together about 8 months and, at times, he had tried to persuade me to try a cigarette, id got to the point where i was becoming quite irritable about him smoking. I stayed with him prior to going into surgery. Rewards work well for successful stints without smoking.Aversion therapy (like Pavlok) can help to quit the habit.Determining and avoiding the habits and behaviors that lead to smoking. 6. level 1. That is not news. Now I smoke a pack a day, on a good stress-free day. About 15 months ago, I started seeing a new guy. farside said: My wife and I have been married for seven years and over the course of our relationship I have kept something from her: I have a fetish for women that smoke. I started smoking at work and while driving, on a regular basis. Dogzilla October 3, 2000, 2:06pm #8. In the bathroom, I spritz some lavender body spray and walk through the mist. In addition, second hand smoke, inhaled by those around the individual who is smoking is equally dangerous to health. I got pregnant (unplanned) and he promised he'd quit - and he did quit until our baby was about 6 months old.. Something A Bit Different. She stands in a tight dress as she Skypes with her boyfriend and tells him how much she misses him and that she has a surprise for him. I recently married the most amazing man in the whole world, "Jeremy." He was a smoker and it always made me want to smoke with him. I smoke a pack a day, same brand. Let's rewind a little. Cathy started smoking cigarettes years ago for her smoker husband named Paul. He's smart, thoughtful, kind, and sexy - I love him. My husband Eric has smoked a pack a day (or more) since I met him. I selfishly wanted her to smoke more. We recently had this fight and right after the argument we went to a restaurant and he ordered a beer. How Should I Respond To My Husband When He Badgers Me To Start Smoking To Satisfy His Cigarette Fetish? At one point I was up to half a pack a day of Marlboro's, but I was able to cut back alot on my own. Perfectly normal, my sissy husband loves watching me smoke. He is stressed out and under pressure so he is smoking. I was trying to get pregnant and then I did and stayed quit. So, the first thing you should tell him is that hes not alone. This was upsetting to me but because I understood how stressed he was I didnt want to put more pressure on him. Oct 28, 2012. (13 Posts) Add message | Report. Now, often, I smoke multiple times a day. Started smoking again!! My husband quit and then started again and then quit again and finally took to smoking out of sight. Then recently he went back to smoking. But there is truth. As you must know cigarette smoking is known to cause cancer and is considered dangerous to ones health. Now, while I still smoke, I might smoke that in a week. He actually bought an external hard drive for his computer because his collection of porn got so huge. There are lots of possible reasons for this. Date Posted: 00:06:13 02/06/02 Wed. my wife stayed its 2:30 time for my smoke. I am supposed to quit soon according to my husband. Growing up, I had a lot of friends. One day, he decided to fulfill this fetish by getting his wife to start the habit of smoking. I quit smoking right before we met. We really clicked and started dating. He has eliminated almost all the harm from smoking so try to support him in this if you at all can. I also started my wife smoking, back when we first started dating. Answer (1 of 16): Hi Im Lacis wife. Do you want him to have a habit when he comes come, constantly smoking indoors, or going outside for a smoke, smelling like dirt, constantly needing to go buy more cigs or tabacco, etc. He was in-between jobs, my baby got meningitis and life was stressful. Perfectly normal, my sissy husband loves watching me smoke. I want my husband to keep chain smoking, said no wife ever. Regina-Phalange. She is so sexy when she smokes. We connect, communicate, understand and love everything about each other. Anyway, the more I think about it the more excited I get -- and it will blow my husband's mind. My extended family smoked and is now dying from it. I had one last night and it felt so good, i've had 3 today. He made this wonderful promise that he would quit because he knew it bothered me before we got married. HUSBAND IS NOT COURTEOUS WHEN SMOKING POT. Unless you completely avoid all levels of closeness and intimacy in your relationship, smoking is a habit that leaves traces on even the most careful person. Only show this user. Let him indulge in activities that make him happy, even if you may dislike it. Tell your spouse how you feel. Getting wife to smoke. In fact, smoking makes Alzheimer's less likely. The nicotine withdrawal of the last 5 days has been physically tough: Nausea, sweats, headaches, and a feeling of emptiness. When my husband and I started dating three years ago, we both had a strong opposition to smoking. I always thought he was a big anti-smoker. Kudos to you for wanting to! Sorry I have very strong feelings about this. Answer (1 of 4): Most of the smokers that stop cold turkey go back to smoking six months to one year after they stopped. I loved to see her smoke. Answer (1 of 16): Hi Im Lacis wife. My husband smokes weed every day. In reply to: Ron 's message, "Re: How I started smoking at age 40" on 23:56:58 02/05/02 Tue. Dear Abby: I am a 28-year-old female. The only way you can get a sure answer is by talking to him. But I'm horrendously addicted to them. Then they had a delay. She initially acted as though she was excited (she's wanted to move-in together for a long time and I've been ambivalent). Got my Husband to start smoking. I have a fiery determination and indefinite patience to remain free from smoking. Mar 18, 2008. You absolutely do! He eventually agreed to quit when I said I didn't really like it and was worried about his health. I started because of my boyfriend, hed always smoked and, though i wasnt anti smoking, i wasnt a particular fan either but i tolerated my boyfriend smoking. Please don't start actually smoking and inhaling. I would do everything in my power to have her quit. It was incredibly romantic and relaxing and a wonderful time. In fact, smoking makes Alzheimer's less likely. My husband is a pot smoker. Other girls smoking. We connect, communicate, understand and love everything about each other. smokingagain Wed 30-Apr-03 22:58:14. After I had been smoking about three months, my husband had semi-emergency surgery. I have had this nagging desire to go out and buy cigarettes for a few weeks and yesterday I did! MsLonely. Sometimes more. He nevers does that. 2. John Barleycorn. Stay physically active to help ease bodily tension.Let friends and family members know when you need support or space.Avoid situations that you find anxiety-provoking, such as loud, crowded parties.Practice relaxation techniques, such as meditation.Establish sleep rituals and avoid caffeine too close to bedtime. We both agreed we would NOT smoke. It didnt take him much to do it. My story is more about how I succumbed to temptation and how I started smoking again. He always had a smoking fetish as a child and was helplessly addicted to it. I was so naive that I had never heard of it. Smoking of any kind is nearly impossible to hide, especially from your spouse. Try and keep the home stress free and joyful. I am starting to feel good about myself again. She initially acted as though she was excited (she's wanted to move-in together for a long time and I've been ambivalent). We dont know you, him, your marriage or your current situation so :rolleyes: I think Ill smoke for a while more and thn quit. Hi everyone. I love being a smoker. Two years ago he started smoking again. My husband and I got into a habit in the evening of sitting out in the garden in the lovely cool summers and talking. My only issue is, Jeremy has an obsession/fetish with women smoking cigarettes. He asked one evening for me to smoke during sex, I did he absolutely loved it. In reply to: Ron 's message, "Re: How I started smoking at age 40" on 23:56:58 02/05/02 Tue. I stayed with him prior to going into surgery. Kudos to you for wanting to! Then he made me start smoking because he said he thought it was sexy. I'm really excited by this. Keep the home environment happy. back saying not there any place else,co worker stated try filing. This was a bit of a shock coming from him, he is a health nut! (13 Posts) Add message | Report. Many moons ago, my husband started smoking (he didn't when we met), he got really bad at one point and would be going out to smoke in our garden every hour or so. Ask him why he all of a sudden wants to be an inferior person. When my husband and I started dating three years ago, we both had a strong opposition to smoking. I have been feeling very stressed for a while now and fed up about everything. We really clicked and started dating. By Anonymous Jan 20, 2018 smokingagain Wed 30-Apr-03 22:58:14. Keep in mind, oddly enough, these "closest friends" were not in my school. So my resolution is to start smoking some full-flavor cigarette and continue until I'm smoking at least 5 a day. It's a descent into a vastly inferior lifestyle. Date Posted: 00:06:13 02/06/02 Wed. His smoking costs us almost $4,000 a year. Before she started smoking, she was a good girl.Young, athletic, brilliant, a strong member of the 8th grade pom team, and a normal student. Then came high school, and with it, influences beyond her wildest imagination.New people, new sensations, havin' a party life. A smoke every now and then helps mellow things out.Then came marijuana, and boy what a rush that was! I have had this nagging desire to go out and buy cigarettes for a few weeks and yesterday I did! After wed been together about 8 months and, at times, he had tried to persuade me to try a cigarette, id got to the point where i was becoming quite irritable about him smoking. Anyway, the more I think about it the more excited I get -- and it will blow my husband's mind. I was so naive that I had never heard of it. If possible, speak to his friends who can help him face stressful situations easily. After I had been smoking about three months, my husband had semi-emergency surgery. One night my husband offered me a puff of his cigarette and I took it. She reveals a cigarette and lights it up for him. Now two years later my baby is a beautiful healthy child, my husband has a great job, and he smokes two packs a week. When I first started smoking cigarettes in my early 20s, it just kind of happened a cigarette here and there, usually at a bar, sometimes on He's smart, thoughtful, kind, and sexy - I love him. If your husband or wife comes to you and says they are going to start using pot and you are uncomfortable with that, ideally they should submit to your opinion and avoid using marijuana. Sep 10, 2018 at 9:57 PM. But I'm a closet smoker. 9. One of the biggest triggers of smoking habit is stress. PlentyOfPubeGardens Fri 26-Jun-15 21:11:47. His parents smoked, and he hated it. My wife used to smoke a half pack a day of Marlboro Reds. I have been feeling very stressed for a while now and fed up about everything. I actually didn't start smoking until after I started nursing school (been smoking approx 15 months). Mostly trough school but some of my closest friends also happened to be my neighbors. About 15 months ago, I started seeing a new guy. By Anonymous Jan 20, 2018 Please don't start actually smoking and inhaling. My husband wasn't a smoker when we met. Hope You All Enjoy.Please Subscribe. The next scene takes place 2 weeks after she started smoking and Amber has learned how to smoke sexy. Never over a pack and a half. And let me state upfront here- -you have a right to an opinion. If I don't like them then, I can quit. Here we go! This was a bit of a shock coming from him, he is a health nut! Except for me. My husband recently revealed his smoking fetish fantasy.
